Women Not The Only Victims Of Domestic Violence

As have been highlighted before women aren't the only victims of domestic violence and as such today l would like us to discuss the signs of domestic violence against men.

Domestic violence against men can take many forms, including emotional, sexual and physical abuse and threats of abuse.  It might not be easy to recognize domestic violence against men. Early in the relationship, your partner might seem attentive, generous and protective in ways that later turn out to be controlling and frightening. Initially, the abuse might appear as isolated incidents. Usually, in men the domestic violence comes emotional whereas in women it is usually physical. Most women are too controlling to their men and excess of control is abuse. In Ndebele we usually call it ‘ubukhwele’. Most people view ubukhwele as being loved but l would like to call it abuse. How can it be termed as love when one is being deprived of their freedom? Your partner deserves freedom to be with other people. This is to women…..the fact that you are married to that man does not mean he can no longer meet or hang around with other people ie friends and relatives. Should he forsake other people because of you? Certainly not…….In as much as he loves you, his life is incomplete without friends and relatives and because of that give him time to be with other people.

Apart from being so much controlled being a form of abuse, below are other signs of domestic abuse against men:

• Calls you names, insults you or undermines you
• Prevents you from going to work or school
• Stops you from seeing family members or friends
• Acts jealous or possessive or constantly accuses you of being unfaithful
• Threatens you with violence or a weapon
• Forces you to have sex or engage in sexual acts against your will
• Blames you for his or her violent behavior or tells you that you deserve it

Below is a video on domestic violence against  men, it shows that men can also be victims of domestic violence. Men are shy to report cases of abuse, For years and years they have been silent victims and my advice to them is to speak out because domestic has got far reaching consequences such as death.

 Domestic violence against men isn't always easy to identify, but it can be a serious threat