Then why did he marry?

It might sound like a fiction story yet it’s true!

I saw an old man who is around his 50s doing all the household chores whilst his wife was instructing him. I could feel for the old man. Early in the morning l saw him doing some washing, l mean a heap of clothes and his wife was cleaning. Honestly, to me this that’s another shift to abuse. He was washing his clothes, the wife’s clothes and the children’s clothes. Unfortunately, the best l could do was to watch as these events unfolded.

As if this was not enough, the next day l saw the old man around 6pm nursing a ten month old baby whilst cooking on fire as there was no electricity. This man is cooking on fire and the wife has just gone to visit a friend. On a daily basis the wife shouts the man, infact; she treats him like a baby. I am totally against this, usually in our society when a man is treated in this manner people always suspect something was done to him.

As Africans we grew up in a society where gender roles are defined to one right from childhood. We grew up knowing that laundry is for women not to say people should not help each other. For me a man can do all these duties when the woman is not around or sick.

This is not to say l have conformed to the patriarchal system but this is to women! Women should not take advantage of a man’s quiet nature and abuse them. There are some women who are dying for that man you are abusing. When God created women he said to Adam l will create for you a helper which means as a woman you play a role of helping a man. Instead of him doing the washing, help him and was, a ten month year old baby needs a mother, nurse the baby. Honestly it’s so painful to see a ten month old baby crying in the hands of his father and the father can’t even breastfeed the baby.

To women who are abusing their man, please STOP IT.